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Protecting Your
Passion
By: Robin Todd
I received an email a couple of weeks ago containing the generous
invitation to write an article about passion and its association with
success. Passion is an element in my personal and professional success,
so I was keen to explore this topic.
I began by asking other people about what the word passion meant to
them. I was curious to find out how they thought it related to success,
but to my surprise, I was rarely able to get that far. For some reason, my
conversations were stilted; it seemed as though passion is a loaded word
that can cause discomfort.
Some people don’t think they carry the “passion” gene. I learned there are
people, even successful ones, who are concerned about their ability to live
up to its definition. The word passion has a high-energy association and
some of us wonder if we truly have it; or if we’re the ones who lack it.
So what is passion? What is this thing we read about so often?
Is passion the energy of desire? Or is it something more? Is it something that
pushes us beyond our limitations, filling us with boundless enthusiasm?
How does passion relate to success? Can you have success without passion?
These are the questions I pondered.
I do know this: It’s possible to set a goal and successfully achieve it without
being passionate about it. It’s not much fun, but the job gets done. So
success is possible without passion.
But without passion, making your way over a small hill can feel like trying
to summit Mount Everest. Conversely, with a dose of passion, even the
greatest challenges can seem as easy as coasting downhill on your bicycle.
Of course, who would ever want to climb a mountain unless they felt
enormous passion to do it? Can you imagine anyone putting in the time,
effort, and commitment required to climb the tallest mountain in the world
without feeling some sense of passion? Why bother?
When passion is mixed into the equation, we’re able to stir up
a sense of boundless enthusiasm while we tirelessly pursue
our goal.
Passion is a very individual experience. Just because other people may
not share your passion for a particular thing doesn’t mean it lacks merit.
People can be passionate about the smallest or largest of things or causes.
Passion has no parameters.
The source of passion is found in our “reasons why”. Without knowing our
reasons why we are attempting to do something, we will rarely gain the
energy required to accomplish or enjoy it.
So you want to earn a lot of money. Ask yourself “Why?” To enjoy the
things that money affords you? An iPod? A car? A trip? Or to ensure your
family’s security? Perhaps it is to prove to your father/mother that they
were wrong about you? (This is SO me. Ha! Thanks, Dad!)
So you want to run a marathon. Why? To increase your physical health?
To prolong your life and die healthy? To enjoy your time outdoors while
training? To brag to your friends? All these are valid reasons why we do
what we do.
Whatever it is, find the “why” and you will be able to find the
wellspring of your passion .
Tony Robbins explains that the energy required to achieve a goal (some may
call this energy “passion”) comes from satisfying one or more of the basic
human needs of:
- love and connection
- certainty
- variety
- significance
- growth and contribution
The more of these needs that are met by the achievement of a certain goal,
the more passion you’ll feel for making it happen. The more aware we are of
our reasons “why” we want to achieve a goal, the stronger the passion and
chance for success.
Yet passion does take some maintenance. Passion can dissipate over time.
This dissipation usually happens to me when I get tired or run into a number
of challenges I was not anticipating. When I lose the energy and excitement
needed to make things happen, I step back and examine the reason why.
When did I last evaluate my “reasons why” for choosing this path? Have I
not taken time to reflect on all that has been accomplished so far? Perhaps
it’s simply time for a holiday to get away from the challenge for a while and
gain a new perspective.
It’s up to you to protect your passion. A review and a rest can revive your
energy and excitement. And never discount those little victories.
How do you know you have passion for something if you can’t really feel it?
I’ve concocted a “passion” quiz to help you uncover the signs that point to
a passionate engagement in something. You’re likely to have passion if you
have a:
1. Strong curiosity that keeps you looking for ways to learn more
about it, or a continual desire to get better at it.
2. Sense of excitement or energy whenever you do it.
3. Need to seek out others who share your interest, so you can talk
about it.
4. Tendency to literally dream about it.
5. Secret fantasy where you someday actually get to the top of your
game and take your place among others who have succeeded in it.
6. Sense of loss of feeling of missing something when you are not
doing it.
If any of these situations ring true for you, you may be more passionate than
you realize. Use this knowledge to keep moving forward in your efforts. You
don’t have to feel an earth-shaking, heart-quaking, spark-making energy
shooting through you every minute of the day. You just have to know that
you need to keep making progress on your goal, whatever it is, in order to
feel happy. This is passion.
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